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Steven

Hi,Julie. I think I can speak for the family on this matter only: we appreciate your condolences and the place in your Heart that it comes from. Also, I'm happy to hear Betty is OK. She was always very kind to me, and she will always hold a place in my Heart. Your whole family, as well. I've been meaning to respond to your condolence here, but to be honest ... I just couldn't find the words. Nobody knows the words. I don't know that there are words. I've listened to and read all the "words of comfort, peace, and serenity" that I could find, multiple sources. "This is a part of Life we all must face eventually." "She's not in pain anymore." "She's in a better place now." There's more. I know there is a lot of Truth to those words, too. I do. They just ... I don't know how to say what I'm trying to say here. I've known people who have lost loved ones. And my words of empathy have been sincere. I've tried to keep it simple, because they never seem to ... Well, you know what I'm trying to say. There just aren't words that cover it, from any perspective. I'm aware that there is absolutely nothing anyone can do about this, but I'm just going to say it: the human condition sucks sometimes. I've come to the conclusion that there are things in Life that we just can't prepare for ... things that we're never truly "ready" for. We can try as best we can, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. We can steel ourselves mentally, and perhaps emotionally and even spiritually. At the end of the day, though, when the storm comes ... it's got to bring some rain. I wish there was something I could do to change all that, but there's not. As with most things in Life, I think the answer may be to take it one day at a time. I am instinctively averse to baring deep emotional turmoil in a quasi-public forum, so I won't say much more. Anything I have said ... well, it is what it is. I won't apologize for the storm inside at the moment, but I do regret if you have actually read all of this and strained your eyes. I'm sorry for being so wordy. Not completely sure why I said so much in what was intended to be a simple thank you. I have no excuse. Please tell Betty hello for me, if you would. And thank you again for your kind words. God bless us all.
Sunday March 17, 2019 at 4:00 am
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